What's so awful about that? Because you might fall in love with the idea and drive yourself insane trying to live up to the image. Sure ... this kind of adoration might be enjoyable for a time, but you'd soon tire of it because the approval by others can be fickle and unrealistic. You'd get weary of trying to say the right things, look the right way, and behave in ways just to keep their approval.
So, how could this also be the BEST thing that can happen to you? It gives you the opportunity to see that real approval comes from within, not without. From within yourself, not from the whims of others. When you have a sound and sincere self-approval, nothing or no one can take it away from you - no matter what.
At one time what I called my "one-down syndrome" was devastating my social life. I always seemed to emerge from social contact feeling "less than." I disliked being so uncomfortable socially. So I decided to go into action and do something about it.
I knew, and I want you to know also, that how you feel about yourself is mostly borrowed from experiences you had with people around you when you were small. I reasoned that anything that is learned can be unlearned. Here's one of the methods I used to improve my sense of being okay.
Whenever I was in one of those social situations, I would keep something I borrowed from Fritz Perles in mind. “I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.”
I would say this to myself whenever I was meeting someone for the first time, dealing with the individuals in a group of strangers, or even finding myself face to face with an antagonistic personality.
This sounds like such a simple thing. But can you see that this gives you the opportunity to start off any encounter feeling like an equal? Remember this! It's your move! You win back your feeling of being as good as anyone else one encounter at a time. Try it! You might enjoy the challenge just like I did and take another step toward enjoying your life in spite of it all.