From some painful experiences I have learned that what I say to myself is definitely not so much smoke in the wind. These dreamy conversations can become living nightmares.
I remember all too well driving down a street where I was living in a rage against what, at the time, seemed like an unforgivable injustice. I was enjoying telling myself what I would like to do to make things right when suddenly a man ran a stop sign and broadsided my car. I thought of the incredible timing it took for me to be at that place at that time in order to be in that accident. Even more, this was a warning of what effect my inner talking, my self-talk, was having on my experiences.
The problem with talking to yourself is that YOU are always doing the talking and the same you is listening. Talking to yourself reinforces thought patterns, and these patterns become real experiences. Rarely do we make any attempt to monitor the quality of these conversations because most of the time we are not aware they are going on nor of the impact they can have on our life.
Most of the negative and harmful self-talk comes from the requirements we make on life. It's those secret conversations - "They owe me, they don't treat me right, I never get any breaks" - that will block our ability to be happier and to grow materially and spiritually.
How do you begin quieting the inner chatter? One of the best ways is to stop having so many requirements on life and the people in it! When you do this, regardless of what happens, you will find out more of what it means to enjoy your life in spite of it all!